Explore 4 Ways To Join Someone On Their Spiritual Journey

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No two faith journeys are alike — they’re personal and unique. We know that a conversation about Jesus isn’t one-size-fits-all; it’s about tuning in and understanding each individual’s life journey.

1. Recognize that every person is on a spiritual journey

Everyone is on a spiritual journey; they may or may not view their life through a spiritual lens, but Jesus is spiritually pursuing them, making it essential to recognize where they are on their journey in order to come alongside them as a spiritual guide leading them toward Jesus.

As stated in Romans 12:4-5 (New Living Translation), “Just as our bodies have many parts and each part has a special function, so it is with Christ’s body. We are many parts of one body, and we all belong to each other.”

The life experiences of others contribute to the beautiful mosaic of the Church once they follow Jesus; however, even before following Jesus, they are still incredibly valuable, with a unique journey and story to tell.

2. Practice curiosity

Flexibility in your conversation means being curious, not assuming. Curiosity leads to awareness recognizing that your view of Jesus and someone else’s view of Him are affected by different life experiences — joy, seeking, or even skepticism.

“Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.” (Romans 12:2 NLT)

Curious questions show you care. They help you walk in another person’s shoes and honor their spiritual journey.

3. Spiritual conversations are not one-size-fits-all

Let’s peek into different possible conversations about Jesus:

Jack shares how God used a simple question about budgeting from a coworker at a cancer research hospital to initiate a spiritual conversation, revealing how his faith in Jesus transformed his views on money and planted a seed of curiosity about Jesus in his coworker’s mind.
Carlos heard his buddies mention Jesus and got curious. Open, honest talks helped him piece together his own faith puzzle.
Cristi was afraid to try to share with her 77-year-old mom since she didn’t live nearby. She decided to go for it anyway and used Godtools while on a video call to tell her mom about the gospel, which led to faith in Christ despite not being in person.

These snippets remind us that courage, patience and empathy can truly shape our faith conversations.

Sharing your own stories about how Jesus has changed your life can help others see his words in action. When you journey with someone, you connect, grow and experience a life of faith together.

4. Try stories and lessons learned

Jesus used parables to show life’s wisdom. These parables aren’t just relics of the past; they’re active, ready to impact your everyday life. Let these stories resonate with your life and spiritual journey so that you can share how the life and teachings of Jesus impact your life directly.

“And the seeds that fell on the good soil represent honest, good-hearted people who hear God’s word, cling to it, and patiently produce a huge harvest” (Luke 8:15, NLT).

Parables are stories with a lesson in mind. They can be real or fictional examples because the point is the lesson, not the facts of the story. This can sometimes cause confusion. A great way to navigate this complexity when reading is by asking yourself, “What are the one or two main lessons Jesus wants his audience to understand?”

Reflections on your spiritual journey

As you reflect on your spiritual journey, you’ll see how your stories shape your views. Joy, trials, or simple wonder — each step draws you nearer to grasping your beliefs and Jesus’ place in your heart.

Here are a couple of questions to mull over:

How can you find unity in spiritual conversations, even when someone’s paths and beliefs differ from yours?
Which parable stories from Jesus have impacted you, and how can you share them to uplift and encourage others?

Every conversation is an opportunity to learn and flourish together in faith. Swing by our Instagram for more tips on sharing your faith.

How to Discover Hope Through a Life-Changing Relationship With Jesus

Have you ever felt like you’re on the edge, looking across a wide chasm that seems to separate you from hope itself? It’s like carrying a heavy chain from your past, thinking it’s too late to break free. But here’s the good news: Jesus offers a bridge built on grace that spans any chasm, welcoming you and those you know into an abundant relationship.

Rest for the Weary: A New Beginning

As you flip through the pages of the New Testament, you’ll find story after story of fresh starts and second chances. Pentecost, the day when the promised Holy Spirit filled the disciples with power, Peter spoke words that pierced hearts, leading the crowd to ask, “What should we do?” His answer was simple and profound, offering change and the gift of a new companion, the Holy Spirit (see Acts 2:37-38, New Living Translation). This is the essence of hope: neither your past nor a friend’s past can disqualify you or them from a future with Jesus.

An Open Invitation: Jesus’ Boundless Love

You probably know this verse, “For God loved the world so much that he gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life” (John 3:16, NLT). That little word, “everyone,” includes you, your friend, your mom, your grandfather, your neighbor, everyone you know —no exceptions, no small print. Jesus’ resurrection provides the way for a true relationship with God, so don’t stop sharing the message of Jesus with the people around you.

GodTools: Your Guide for Conversations About Jesus

Everyone’s path to Jesus is as unique as their fingerprint. Some journeys are resilient, weathering life’s fiercest storms. Others are reflective, always seeking deeper truths. Some are hopeful, chasing the light at the tunnel’s end. Some journeys experience hopelessness until they encounter Jesus. But they’re all deeply personal, just like your own story.

Your story is powerful because it’s God working in and through you. It’s also powerful because people connect with stories. Think about the last movie you watched, there were probably high moments and very low moments, a climax, a resolution, or possibly an open ending. People connect with spiritual journeys; they connect with stories. Learn to share your story with the lesson, “The power of your God story”, found in the Lessons section of the GodTools app.

Grace’s Empowerment: Jesus’ Welcoming Arms

Jesus isn’t on the lookout for perfection; He’s in the business of perfecting those He calls, taking broken pots and making them whole again. His message is one of empowerment, where grace overflows and failures lose their sting.

Whether they’re taking their first step toward Jesus or returning after a long absence, their story isn’t finished. With Jesus, hope is always on the table, and nobody is too far gone. Allow that truth to sink into your heart and overflow into the conversation. Spiritual journies often take some time, but be patient asking God to move in your friend’s heart. When you can share the good news: a relationship with Jesus isn’t a mere possibility—it’s a guaranteed promise for those who believe and follow him with their life.

Do you know someone who needs a little help? Check out GodTools: a wealth of resources is there, ready to help you introduce him to others, so they can experience true hope and abundance.

You can carry that spark of hope from Jesus wherever you go, and watch as it ignites every conversation, every relationship, every quiet moment. In Him, the people in your life who seem far from God can actually have an anchor of hope that stands strong through all life’s seasons.

Diving A Little Deeper: Verses of Hope and Connection

Acts 2:37-38 – A welcome into forgiveness and the embrace of the Holy Spirit.
John 3:16 – An assurance of everlasting life through faith in Jesus.
Romans 8:38-39 – A promise that nothing can ever disconnect us from Jesus’s love.

As you continue to explore the New Testament, the theme of hope will wrap around you like a cozy blanket. Romans 5:5 reassures you that “this hope will not lead to disappointment. For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love” (NLT). It’s a vibrant, active hope that’s alive and at work right now.

The letters in the Bible also speak with the enduring nature of hope in Jesus. Hebrews 6:19 describes it as “a strong and trustworthy anchor for our souls.” It’s the kind of hope that steadies you when life’s waves hit hard—a solid foundation you and those in your life can always rely on.

Step into the journey of hope and redemption that Jesus has paved. It’s a path marked by His footprints, leading your friends to a place of restoration and peace. Every step is a testament to His promise that nobody is beyond His transformative love.

Things to Try

Dive into the verses above
Follow @godtoolsapp on Instagram for regular encouragement
Pray for the people in your life who seem far from God
Complete the Lesson “The power of your God story”

19 Ways to Say “I Don’t Know” When Talking About God

Have you ever found yourself in a conversation where someone asks you a question about faith, and you realize you don’t have all the answers? You might feel caught off guard or like a fraud because you think you should know more. When that happens, it’s OK. You can build rapport and trust because no one knows all the answers.

While talking with a friend, you might have the opportunity to dive into deep topics about life, purpose and the existence of God. The conversation could flow smoothly until your friend poses a question that catches you completely off guard: “Why do bad things happen to good people?” Do you freeze for a moment? Are you trying to come up with a satisfactory response? You might not have an answer. It’s normal to feel discomfort or inadequacy.

However, instead of resorting to a vague answer or attempting to lie, make a conscious decision to be honest. You can say, “You know, that’s a really tough question, and I don’t have all the answers. But I’m here to listen and explore it together if you’d like.”

Initially, it’s easy to worry about how your friend might react. Will they think less of you for not having a ready-made answer? Will they doubt your faith or sincerity? To your surprise, your friend might appreciate the honesty. They might tell you that it was refreshing to have a genuine conversation with someone who didn’t pretend to have all the solutions.

That moment of vulnerability could turn out to be pivotal in your friendship. By opening up about uncertainty, you can inadvertently deepen your connection. An honest response shows your friend that you value your relationship more than maintaining an illusion of having all the answers.

But here’s the remarkable part: as you continue to talk and grapple with life’s big questions together, you can witness something extraordinary. Friendships don’t always immediately grow when controversial topics come up, but as you show grace and honesty, the Holy Spirit will move in and through your authenticity.

So, if you ever find yourself in a similar situation, where you’re faced with a challenging spiritual question and you don’t have all the answers, remember this: honesty is a powerful tool. Embrace your vulnerability, and trust that God can work through your authenticity to strengthen relationships and deepen connections. Who knows? Your conversation might just lead to something beautiful.

Here are 19 ways to gracefully express uncertainty in a spiritual conversation:

“That’s a great question, and I’m still exploring it myself.”
“I’m not entirely sure, but I’m open to learning more about it.”
“I haven’t found a clear answer to that yet, but I’m intrigued by the possibilities.”
“I’m still seeking guidance on that matter. Have you looked into it?”
“I’m uncertain, but I think it’s important to keep seeking and questioning.”
“I’m in a phase of questioning and discovery regarding that topic. What about you?”
“It’s a complex question, and I’m still exploring it.”
“I’m not certain, but I’m interested in hearing your perspective on it.”
“I’m still exploring the basis of that and haven’t reached a conclusion yet.”
“I’m comfortable with not having all the answers and embracing the journey of discovery.”
“That’s a question that’s challenged me, and I’m still contemplating it.”
“I don’t have a definitive answer, but I’m open to exploring it together.”
“I’m still wrestling with that question myself.”
“I’m not sure, but I think it’s OK to have uncertainties in our spiritual journey.”
“I’m still on the path of understanding, and that question is one I’m considering.”
“I’m open to the mystery of it and haven’t reached a conclusion yet.”
“I’m still learning and growing, and that question is part of my journey.”
“I haven’t found a satisfactory answer yet, but I’m committed to seeking. I know sometimes people feel uneasy about not knowing. How does it make you feel?”
“That’s a question that’s challenged me to dig deeper into my faith. I haven’t landed on a response I feel solid with yet.”

7 ways the Holy Spirit helps you talk about Jesus

Imagine having a best friend who’s always by your side, ready to help you have a conversation with others about the best news ever. That’s kind of what it’s like when you grow closer to the Holy Spirit. Think of it like having a constant companion who cheers you on and makes talking about Jesus easier and more natural.

This friend understands you deeply and knows exactly what you need and when you need it, helping you find the right words and the best approach to connect with people. The Holy Spirit simplifies your thoughts, clarifies your feelings and enables you to express yourself clearly and lovingly.

Let’s learn together how this wonderful relationship works and explore how it can profoundly influence the way you talk about Jesus with others.

The Holy Spirit as your closest friend

Think of the Holy Spirit as a friend who knows you better than anyone else. This friend is always with you, cheering you on and giving you the right words at the right time. When you are close to the Holy Spirit, walking together, you embody the Holy Spirit’s power and fruit: “love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control” (Galatians 5:22,23, New Living Translation). This relationship gives you confidence that you can represent the kingdom of God and talk to others about Jesus because you are not doing it alone. Jesus said, “I will be with you always, even to the end of the age” (Matthew 28:20).

Listening and learning

Growing closer in a relationship with a friend means spending quality time together. It’s similar with the Holy Spirit. You enhance this relationship by reading the Bible, talking to the Holy Spirit as you would to a close friend, and being “transformed by the renewing of your mind” (Romans 12:12, New International Version). These practices help you understand how to convey Jesus’ love to others more effectively. God also prepares you and makes your words resonate with those who hear them.

Practicing compassion

Compassion is core to Jesus’ message, and practicing it involves more than just making people receptive to us. You demonstrate compassion as you live out Jesus’ love in your daily actions. When you embody Jesus through the power of the Holy Spirit, your caring actions become a powerful testimony to his influence on you. This genuine display of compassion often opens doors for deeper conversations about faith.

Sharing stories

Sharing personal stories is one of the most effective ways to communicate about Jesus. Everyone loves a good story, and the Holy Spirit can remind you of narratives from the Bible or your own life that highlight Jesus’ love and compassion. For example, you might share about how you found comfort in a difficult time through prayer, or how a particular Scripture gave you peace and direction. Another story could be about a day when you felt an overwhelming sense of joy and gratitude during a community service event. These stories help others see the real-life implications of your faith, and they make the message of Jesus relatable.

Being brave together

Talking about Jesus can seem intimidating, but with the Holy Spirit, you never face these challenges alone. Consider the analogy of jumping into a swimming pool. It might seem daunting at first, but it feels great once you’re in the water. The Holy Spirit gives you that initial courage when you hesitate. For example, when you’re at a social gathering and the topics of religion, current events or opinions come up, the Holy Spirit can inspire you to talk about your faith with courage and sensitivity. He can help you turn potentially awkward moments into opportunities for meaningful dialogue.

It’s a journey

Growing in your relationship with the Holy Spirit and learning to talk about Jesus are ongoing adventures. You will experience highs and lows, but every step is part of a grand adventure that enriches your faith and molds your character. The journey involves learning about God with excitement and discovery as you find encouragement to talk about the gospel passionately.

You’re not perfect, and that’s OK

You don’t need to be perfect to talk about Jesus. Everyone makes mistakes, and that’s normal. In 2 Corinthians 12:9, Paul writes, “Each time he said, ‘My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.’ So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me.” God looks for willingness, not perfection. Being real and transparent about your struggles and victories in life with God can make your interactions more relatable, developing a deeper connection with people.

If anything, remember that the Holy Spirit empowers you to represent God to others

Growing closer to the Holy Spirit transforms how you communicate about Jesus with others. You can depend on the Holy Spirit to help you build confidence, practice authentic compassion and provide courage to share your stories.

“For God was in Christ, reconciling the world to himself, no longer counting people’s sins against them. And he gave us this wonderful message of reconciliation. So we are Christ’s ambassadors; God is making his appeal through us. We speak for Christ when we plead, ‘Come back to God!’” (2 Corinthians 5:19,20, NLT).

Remember, this is a journey for all Christians, filled with continuous learning and opportunities for growth. Let’s encourage each other to keep exploring this adventure and spread the good news to all the corners of the world, starting with where you are.

Reflect:

Who is one person you can encourage by sharing this article?
What is the one thing you needed to read most from this article?

How compassion and understanding makes for a better faith conversation

When you tell a friend about something good in your life that can make a difference for them, think about a caring approach to the conversation. A mindset of kindness, rather than forcefulness, can help you have a more meaningful discussion. Scripture encourages this attitude.

“But in your hearts revere Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect” (1 Peter 3:15, New International Version).

As you interact with the person, there are three things you can keep in mind through your conversation: their story, the goodness of God, and how deep needs create common ground.

Learn about the person’s background

Listening to someone’s thoughts and perspectives demonstrates interest. Ask follow-up questions to hear more and to understand. You can hear what the person says instead of making the conversation a one-sided teaching.

As you listen, it could help to gain more understanding about how the person has reached their spiritual conclusions. You might think about how their story or past events play into this. Empathy for someone’s story demonstrates love for that person.

Remember the goodness of God

When you learn someone’s thoughts about spiritual topics, remember the goodness of Jesus. This means having a desire for the person to experience God. You want them to know the reality that He is better than anything else.

So, with the help and power of the Holy Spirit, you communicate about good news that brings joy and freedom. It’s not an irrelevant subject but a message of light.

God can work in the person’s life to help them understand this hope.

Communicate on common ground

When you want your friend or family member to experience knowing Jesus, it’s possible to talk about his grace and forgiveness as well as about truth and sin. While communicating about the gospel in this way, you don’t look down on the person but have kindness.

Think about where the gospel meets a deep need, even your own needs. For example, every person needs someone who is able to bear all cares and concerns, giving rest (Matthew 11:28). Jesus is the perfect friend to come to in prayer. Sometimes, a spiritual conversation might feel awkward, but relating to the needs of others places you on common ground.

The caring approaches to these conversations are applicable whether you’re talking to someone who doesn’t know Jesus or a Christian who is struggling. Leading with compassion and empathy, you can talk with a friend or family member about the gospel in a way that is respectful and helps them.

How to find joy when conversations go sideways

I truly desire to have meaningful conversations about faith with others, especially at times like Christmas and Easter, when spiritual conversations are easier to bring up. Before I try to have a meaningful conversation, I find myself engaging in a personal routine that begins with prayer for the person, inviting others to pray with me, and finding the courage to initiate a conversation. After this routine, my hopes are high, so when that person rejects the gospel or my invitation for discussion, the last thing I feel is joy or peace.

I imagine I am not the only person in this situation. Like me, you might have experienced disappointment with unmet expectations or the feeling that your effort was a waste. Perhaps you haven’t experienced that disappointment yet, but what if you do?

When you’ve prayed and had a conversation with a loved one or someone you have compassion for, you have taken steps to care for them. Therefore, it’s understandable to feel sad when you discover they don’t share in your joy for the Savior.

In these moments, what helps me is remembering Jesus is the Savior, not me. Jesus is alive and seated on his heavenly throne, and Jesus loves this person more than you possibly could. When you pray for others and start conversations with them about Jesus and faith in him, you are being faithful to God. Isaiah 52:7 (New International Version) says, “How beautiful on the mountains are the feet of those who bring good news, who proclaim peace, who bring good tidings, who proclaim salvation, who say to Zion, ‘Your God reigns!’” It’s your job to speak the good news; it’s God’s job to change hearts.

Even when others reject Jesus in conversations, it is up to God to work in their lives. God might use you to have more spiritual conversations in the future, to study the Bible with that person, if they’re willing, or to simply pray for them. But only God can transform the person’s spirit, and no one is better equipped to perform such work than Him. While God is working, you can continue as his ambassador with friendship, kindness and displays of Jesus’ love.

Jesus’ redemptive work on the cross is the most powerful demonstration of love, and it means God cares even more than you do. So when spiritual conversations don’t go as you hoped and you feel disappointment, rejoice because although they rejected him, God is still able to work in the person’s life. Therefore, rejoice, be at peace, and don’t stop praying and loving because God is working.

How to recognize and create chances to talk about God during the holidays

Holidays can be such a great time to have spiritual conversations with your friends and family.

You’re with loved ones to celebrate and spend quality time together. Maybe you’re seeing people you haven’t seen in a while. Special food and fun traditions, and the anticipation of them, can lead to a festive feeling in the air. And that holiday mood can allow people to relax and be more open to talking.

If approached with humility and love, and the power the Holy Spirit offers, holidays can be an ideal time to talk with someone about Jesus. But for that conversation to happen, it’s important to recognize or create the right opportunity.

So here’s how you can recognize opportunities when they come or create some yourself.

How can you recognize opportunities to talk about your faith in God?

First of all, what’s an opportunity? A good opportunity to talk about God with someone is when the other person is undistracted and willing to have a spiritual conversation with you. It’s that simple.

And a person is more likely to be open to talking about spiritual things when it’s just the two of you. So look for times when you’re more or less alone together and doing something that doesn’t take a lot of concentration. Here are types of situations to look for:

You and a friend are traveling together to a holiday gathering.
You find yourself making dumplings in the kitchen with your cousin while everyone else is outside.
After the meal, your grandma invites you to take a walk with her around the neighborhood.
You watch a movie with a group of people and afterward you and a friend go out for coffee to talk about it.

Look for times like these, when you’re together and less likely to be interrupted. Start by asking a good question and listening well. Then ask a spiritual question and see if the person is open to having a spiritual conversation. A good spiritual question to ask during a holiday could be, “What are you thankful for?”

Stay alert because a chance can come and go quickly. If your uncle asks the group, “Who wants to go with me to buy the meat?” you may have only a couple seconds to volunteer before someone else does.

Sometimes, though, quality chances to talk about spiritual topics don’t appear. Or you fail to recognize them in time. When that’s the case, try creating a chance to talk about God.

How can you create opportunities to talk about your faith in God?

Creating opportunities doesn’t mean you’re taking matters into your own hands. Either way, God is the one working behind the scenes. Sometimes he drops opportunities in your lap and sometimes he invites you to take a more active role, working with him to bring the opportunities about.

So here are three things you can do to create opportunities to talk with family and friends about Jesus during a holiday:

1. Pray and prepare

God wants everyone to hear the good news. So he’s definitely going to help you if you want to talk about Jesus with the people in your life. Pray and ask God to lead you by his Spirit.

Then think through past holidays and your plans for this one and identify potential opportunities for a conversation. One idea is to invite someone ahead of time to a sporting event or out for coffee or to shop for presents together.

2. Demonstrate the gospel with your life

People will be more willing to talk with you about God if they see genuine humility and love in your actions and attitude. When you make conflict resolution and forgiveness a priority it disarms the other person and can make them curious.

Share about your life in a vulnerable way, then ask to hear what’s been going on in their life since you’ve seen them last. Ask how you can pray for them. Be excited with them about the good stuff and show compassion when responding about the hard stuff. When they see your genuine interest and care it will reduce some of the barriers they may have.

Just by having a great interaction with the other person — laughing or talking deeply — you can build trust and help undo negative assumptions they might have of you or Jesus. Then, when you bring up spiritual topics, they’re more likely to have that conversation with you.

3. Take action

Taking action means actively creating time when you can talk without distractions. For example, you could offer to help your friend clean up after the meal while others play a game in the living room. Once you have a conversation going, take a step of faith and ask a spiritual question.

Also, your friend or family member may be more willing to talk with you about God if they have an experience that causes them to think about spiritual things.

Will you be going to a religious service together?
Will you be doing a holiday tradition that has a spiritual background?
Will you be experiencing art together (movie, museum, music) that has an overtly spiritual element or theme?

If so, you can ask what they felt and thought about that service, tradition or piece of art. If it’s a movie, you could ask about parts that speak to spiritual themes: the world’s brokenness due to sin, death that causes sadness, good vs. evil, a fight for justice, love that brings healing. After listening well, see if they’re open for you to share your views too. While sharing, you can talk about how Jesus died to solve the problems of sin and death and to bring love, justice, and healing.

But what if talking about “religion” doesn’t often go well in your family? If that’s the case, one thing you can do is to wait until you’ve eaten. When we’re hungry it’s harder to concentrate and easier to become irritated and impatient. Bringing up spiritual topics after having eaten is more likely to go well. Also make sure to use a kind and gentle tone of voice.

When you recognize, create and make the most of opportunities to talk about God with the people in your life this holiday season, you are showing them love. There’s no greater gift you can give another person than a chance to hear the gospel, be forgiven and enter into a relationship with Jesus.

So ask God for opportunities and for help. Then prepare, seek to demonstrate the gospel with your life, and actively pursue a spiritual conversation with your friend or family member. Happy holidays!

How to gain a learner’s mindset and become curious about a person’s background

Has anyone ever been truly curious about you as a person? If so, did it make you feel cared for when they asked you questions that showed interest in who you are?

Curious people have a learner’s mindset. They want to learn about others. When you desire to talk with people about faith, it’s helpful to first focus on learning about them. A learner’s mindset, in dependence on God, helps you to have effective spiritual conversations as you grow in understanding about the other person.

So here are three things you can do to develop a learner’s mindset and become a person who is curious about others.

1. Pray for a godly perspective and for boldness to show intentional care

Start by asking God to give you a desire to see people the way that he sees them. Jesus deeply cares about the people you interact with on a daily basis. Every person is valuable to him. It’s good to remind yourself that God “desires all people to be saved and to come to the knowledge of the truth” (1 Timothy 2:4, English Standard Version).

Pray that God will give you love for others and that you would reflect God’s character to the people around you. Pray specifically for guidance with what questions to ask people in conversation as you seek to learn about them.

Also ask God to give you boldness, in the power of the Holy Spirit, to show the person intentional care. Ed Welch, in his book “Caring for One Another: 8 Ways to Cultivate Meaningful Relationships,” explains an important truth about this way of relating to people.

“So we move toward others. The extroverts among us seem to make it look easy. The more shy might be intimidated by the potential awkwardness or silence. But loving pursuit is neither easy nor natural to anyone. All of us need both humility and help from Scripture in order to navigate the early stages of a helpful conversation.”

Yet as you “lovingly pursue” people through being curious about them, keep in mind one thing that kills curiosity: assumptions.

2. Let go of assumptions

Another way to gain more of a learner’s mindset is to recognize and turn away from assumptions you might have about people. Assumptions can prevent your personal relationship with someone from going to a deeper level.

For example, let’s say you assume that a person you work with does not want to talk about spiritual things. In that case, you might not bring up spiritual things in your conversation. The problem though is that your assumption is causing you to miss the opportunity to hear about their thoughts on Christianity.

Think through what you’ve assumed about people in your life. Then seek to learn what is really true. Ask them about a topic that you think you already know their thoughts on, like if anyone they know goes to a church and what they think about that.

It might feel easy to put people in stereotype boxes. Maybe you’ve placed someone in a category based on their political views or their hobbies. Seek to break down those boxes and see people as complex instead of just a stereotype. A simple question to start could be, “What is something that people don’t often know about you?”

Along with letting go of stereotypes, trust God to work in the person’s life. You might be surprised at how he is drawing them into a relationship with him. Ask God to show you how he is at work in that person’s life.

And as you do away with assumptions and begin to see the person for who they are, continue with curiosity. Seek to put the puzzle pieces together and understand their spiritual journey and life story as a whole.

3. Ask questions about a person’s story

Everyone is on a spiritual journey. Each person you interact with has a story and a spiritual background. This might be easy to think about in your own life. You had a journey to come to faith and you continue to experience change and growth in your spiritual life.

Seek to uncover and put together the pieces of another person’s story. Discover the who, what, when, where and why of their life. Ask about their family, major life events, career choices, places they’ve lived and their reasons for thinking the way they do about certain topics.

When you’re in a conversation, listen carefully to the person’s answers. And remember, your conversations don’t need to look a certain way or like you imagined they would before you started.

Take a step of faith to ask another question, and then another one. Through your curiosity, you can discover more about the person, leading to deeper spiritual conversations in the future.

Do you know what your friends and family actually believe about God?

Who knows you better than your friends and family? Sometimes that’s fun and sometimes that’s awkward. But as well as they may know you, do they know the details of what you believe about spiritual things? And do you actually know what they believe about God?

It could be that you’ve never asked what your aunt thinks about Jesus. Or maybe you asked her five years ago how her spiritual background shaped her current beliefs. Sadly, her answer made it obvious she wasn’t interested in talking about God. So in your mind you put her in the “not interested in God” box and there she’s stayed.

But did you know that what a person believes can change over time? It might be a subtle change or it might be a huge shift. Just look at your own life.

What do you believe about God? And have those beliefs changed over time?

Pastor and author A.W. Tozer said, “What you believe about God is the most important thing about you.” This is true, whether you live like he doesn’t exist, believe he’s a tyrannical God waiting to punish you when you mess up, or think he’s a loving God overflowing with grace and mercy.

A number of factors have shaped, and are still shaping, your beliefs. For instance, the environment you grew up in, the government you live under, the culture that surrounds you, and the amount of time you spend online or with neighbors, friends or mentors.

Your family culture also affects what amount of brokenness you’ve been exposed to. The world is full of evil and sin. And the brokenness that saturates every area of life affects you to some degree, shaping what you believe about God — if he is real, good or just plain mean.

As you grow up and have new experiences, there will always be something or someone that can change your beliefs and perspectives. Whether you know it or not you are growing and learning on a daily basis as you interact with the world around you. One person, podcast, image, story, conversation or experience can change the way you think about everything, including about the spiritual side of life.

Take a moment to reflect on the different stages of your life and how you thought about God in each of those times.

Then think about how, if your beliefs can change, so can the beliefs of those closest to you.

How can you find out what your family and friends believe about God?

When you think about how you’ve changed, it can remind you just how much someone else could have also changed, even in a short amount of time. Staying curious about your own beliefs, especially as they develop, will help you be curious about the lifelong faith development of your family and friends.

But what are some ways you can find out what they actually believe about God? Here are three things to try:

Make use of the spirituality category in Openers*
Asking questions is a really simple way to get to know someone and what their beliefs are. The following questions are some options from the Openers tool in the GodTools app:
- “If you could ask God for one thing right now, what would it be?”
- “What was your exposure to religion growing up?”
- “What spiritual belief did you have as a child that seems ridiculous to you now?”
Share your story to help the other person share theirs
Asking to hear someone’s story can help you know what has shaped that person. But you may need to share your story or be vulnerable yourself first. Being transparent like this will show the other person how emotionally deep you’re willing to go in the conversation. Sharing stories can build trust and friendship as well as create opportunities to connect with the other person on a deeper level.
Join the other person in what they’re doing
Joining the other person could be doing a fun activity together, running an errand or sharing a meal with others in their life. As you spend time together you’ll learn about their hobbies, values, what they like and don’t like, and hopefully their spiritual beliefs too. The more time you spend with someone, the more chances you have to learn about them and what they think about life, spiritual things and God himself.

As you try to find out what your friends and family truly believe about God, remember that their faith development is a lifelong process. Everyone is on a spiritual journey and you never know where that journey has taken someone. Yesterday may have been the day they totally changed their mind about God.

Learning what your friends and family believe can help you talk with them about the good news in a way that makes sense to them. So stay curious. Then let the gospel shine into the dark places of sin and brokenness in their lives where its light has not yet reached.

Do you persist or adapt when you hit a roadblock in sharing the good news?

Hey there, friend.

We know the journey of sharing the gospel is not always a smooth path. Sometimes you come across challenges that make you wonder: Should I keep pushing ahead or try a different approach? That’s where the dance between persistence and adaptation comes in.

Together, we can trust the Holy Spirit to guide us when facing challenges to sharing the gospel. And ultimately, employing these two approaches — persistence and adaptation — you can grow deeper and more meaningful relationships with those you love: mom, dad, son, daughter, friend, neighbor.

Let’s dive into this exciting journey together, drawing insights from the “Noticing” chapter in Doug Pollock’s short book, “God Space.”

Perseverance: embracing patience

Picture this: You’re sharing your faith and, suddenly, you hit a roadblock. The other person is willing to answer your spiritual questions but only with short answers. Or maybe on the soccer sideline another parent seems interested, but phone calls or developments in the game keep distracting them.

It’s in these moments that perseverance becomes your ally. It’s about not giving up. But hey, we understand — it’s not always easy:

Dealing with roadblocks: Discovering ways to continue the conversation in the context of your relationship is the focus of perseverance. When facing a roadblock like short answers, you could ask a powerful question, “What is an aspect of faith that is interesting to you?”
Asking God to help: God wants all people to be saved (1 Timothy 2:3-4, NIV). So in the soccer example, you can first ask him to remove distractions long enough for you to talk about him with the other person. Then patiently persevere in bringing up spiritual topics and see what happens.

What’s awesome about perseverance? It shows your dedication and authenticity. Your commitment shines through, building a foundation of trust and setting the stage for incredible conversations about God.

Adaptation: embracing change

Switch gears for a moment and think about a different roadblock. The person you’re talking with gets upset discussing “religion” and shuts down. In this case, adaptation rather than perseverance is likely the best way forward. Adaptation is all about being flexible and willing to adjust your approach. But hey, adapting comes with its own set of challenges:

Stepping outside of your comfort zone: Trying something new can be a bit nerve-wracking. But remember, growth often comes from stepping out of your comfort zone.
Adapting isn’t failing: You might worry that changing things up means you’re giving up. But adapting shows that you genuinely care about their spiritual journey and not your methods.

Adaptation lets you meet people where they are spiritually and creates opportunity for deeper, more meaningful conversations. Adapting in the example above could be taking the time to show empathy by asking questions with gentleness about their experience with religion. By matching your approach to their needs, you’re showing them that you’re listening and that you value their perspective.

Striking the balance: when to persist and when to adapt

Now, let’s chat about the art of balancing. How do you know when to hold on and when to pivot? Keep these pointers in mind:

Hopeful persistence: If you sense openness beyond the roadblocks, be it internal or external, then persistence can be your guiding light. In this case, your patience and the respect you show the other person can go a long way.
Your current approach may not be effective: If your current approach is not increasing your relationship and might even be straining your connection, it’s time to consider adapting. Remember, adapting is not waving a white flag of surrender — it’s about finding better ways to connect. Check out a lesson* in the GodTools app to discover new ideas for connecting.
Persistence and adaptation can work together: Persevering in the relationship often calls for adapting your approach in the conversation.

*Lessons are only available in the app.

A growing relationship

As you navigate gospel conversations, remember that both perseverance and adaptation have their place. Effectiveness lies in the authenticity of your intentions, the love you show, and your sincere desire to share the life-changing message of the gospel. While you persevere in guiding the other person to explore the person of Jesus, be open to adapting your approach. This openness reflects your genuine care and commitment to their well-being.

In the end, the heart of evangelism lies in building relationships — between you and that person, and between that person and God. You are the guide on the other person’s spiritual journey, the two of you taking steps together toward Jesus. As you look through the practical tips in GodTools BÀI HỌC, you’ll find yourself better equipped to strike the balance between perseverance and adaptation. Then you can more effectively invite others to experience the profound beauty of faith in Christ.