19 Ways to Say “I Don’t Know” When Talking About God

Have you ever found yourself in a conversation where someone asks you a question about faith, and you realize you don’t have all the answers? You might feel caught off guard or like a fraud because you think you should know more. When that happens, it’s OK. You can build rapport and trust because no one knows all the answers. 

While talking with a friend, you might have the opportunity to dive into deep topics about life, purpose and the existence of God. The conversation could flow smoothly until your friend poses a question that catches you completely off guard: Why do bad things happen to good people? Do you freeze for a moment? Are you trying to come up with a satisfactory response? You might not have an answer. It’s normal to feel discomfort or inadequacy.

However, instead of resorting to a vague answer or attempting to lie, make a conscious decision to be honest. You can say, You know, that’s a really tough question, and I don’t have all the answers. But I’m here to listen and explore it together if you’d like.

Initially, it’s easy to worry about how your friend might react. Will they think less of you for not having a ready-made answer? Will they doubt your faith or sincerity? To your surprise, your friend might appreciate the honesty. They might tell you that it was refreshing to have a genuine conversation with someone who didn’t pretend to have all the solutions.

That moment of vulnerability could turn out to be pivotal in your friendship. By opening up about uncertainty, you can inadvertently deepen your connection. An honest response shows your friend that you value your relationship more than maintaining an illusion of having all the answers.

But here’s the remarkable part: as you continue to talk and grapple with life’s big questions together, you can witness something extraordinary. Friendships don’t always immediately grow when controversial topics come up, but as you show grace and honesty, the Holy Spirit will move in and through your authenticity. 

So, if you ever find yourself in a similar situation, where you’re faced with a challenging spiritual question and you don’t have all the answers, remember this: honesty is a powerful tool. Embrace your vulnerability, and trust that God can work through your authenticity to strengthen relationships and deepen connections. Who knows? Your conversation might just lead to something beautiful.


Here are 19 ways to gracefully express uncertainty in a spiritual conversation:

  1. That’s a great question, and I’m still exploring it myself.
  2. I’m not entirely sure, but I’m open to learning more about it.
  3. I haven’t found a clear answer to that yet, but I’m intrigued by the possibilities.
  4. I’m still seeking guidance on that matter. Have you looked into it?
  5. I’m uncertain, but I think it’s important to keep seeking and questioning.
  6. I’m in a phase of questioning and discovery regarding that topic. What about you?
  7. It’s a complex question, and I’m still exploring it.
  8. I’m not certain, but I’m interested in hearing your perspective on it.
  9. I’m still exploring the basis of that and haven’t reached a conclusion yet.
  10. I’m comfortable with not having all the answers and embracing the journey of discovery.
  11. That’s a question that’s challenged me, and I’m still contemplating it.
  12. I don’t have a definitive answer, but I’m open to exploring it together.
  13. I’m still wrestling with that question myself.
  14. I’m not sure, but I think it’s OK to have uncertainties in our spiritual journey.
  15. I’m still on the path of understanding, and that question is one I’m considering.
  16. “I’m open to the mystery of it and haven’t reached a conclusion yet.
  17. I’m still learning and growing, and that question is part of my journey.
  18. I haven’t found a satisfactory answer yet, but I’m committed to seeking. I know sometimes people feel uneasy about not knowing. How does it make you feel?
  19. That’s a question that’s challenged me to dig deeper into my faith. I haven’t landed on a response I feel solid with yet.